In the past 12 months, 43.5 million Americans have provided unpaid care to an adult or child, according the National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP (2018). If you have been a caregiver in the past, are a caregiver now, or expect to care for an elderly parent or relative at some time in the near future, you need to pay attention. The stress of being a full-time caregiver is no joke; whether you are caring for a disabled child or an aging parent, you must take your own well-being seriously.
Caregivers are faced with an overwhelming amount of stress, which, if gone unattended, can result in burnout. Burnout occurs when the mental, emotional and physical demands of a long-term stressor begin to weigh so heavily on an individual that they hit a breaking point.
Common signs of burnout include: anxiety, depression, chronic fatigue, feelings of resentment, failure to take care of responsibilities, health problems, neglecting personal hygiene and feelings of hopelessness. Obviously the impacts of ignoring stress can reach beyond simple frustrations and petty outbursts. The impacts can become dangerous and possibly put the caregiver and the cared for at risk. If you are a caregiver, please take care of yourself first and use the below tips as an outline.
Spending most of your time with the individual who relies on you solely for their day to day survival can feel suffocating and lonely. You might feel like no one out there could possibly understand the guilt you have over the resentment you sometimes feel towards the individual you’re caring for. But don’t believe that lie. There are others out there who do understand, who are in the same place as you right now. Find community by searching support groups in your area or confide in a close and trustworthy group of friends.
Being a full-time caregiver doesn’t mean losing those years of your life. Just like a regular job, you need time away. A night out, a long weekend or a long-awaited vacation are all things you genuinely need and deserve.
Caregivers often think getting away is impossible. That no one will be able to manage the caregiving responsibilities in your absence. That is not true. If you have family nearby, you can rely on their support to spread out the caregiving duties and give you a break. Even if you do not have family near, there are qualified and wonderful individuals found through reputable organizations who can provide respite care in your home.
Take advantage of these opportunities. Ask for help and give yourself time away to refresh.
We all know that if the oxygen masks drop on an airplane, we are supposed to put our masks on first before assisting those around us. This is true in absolutely every caregiving situation. You need to take care of yourself first because if you aren’t mentally, emotionally and physically healthy, you won’t be able to properly care for anyone.
Self-care means being conscientious of eating well, getting proper physical activity, and being aware of what you need. If you notice you have slipped into a habit of irritability, that could be a sign that you need some time away. If you’ve found yourself feeling lonely, you might need to invite a friend over for lunch or meet some friends for coffee. Being aware of your own state of being and reacting to where you are in the moment, is step one to great self-care.
If you are deep into the stress of caregiving and are trying to dig yourself out but don’t know where to start, start with the above 3 guideposts. If you feel that you need an extra push towards mood regulation or stress management, explore regular CBD use. Cannabidiols are extremely effective at reducing feelings of stress and anxiety. The best part is that they are all-natural and have no risk of becoming habit forming. Another important part of self-care is trying new things that can help get you on a path to well-being. CBDs might be just the thing for you.